Have you ever been at a guy's crib, whether he's your boyfriend or jumpoff, and you stumble upon an article of clothing or item that isn't yours? (Yea, we've all been there so stop fronting.) Woman are naturally quizzical or just plain nosey. Sometimes you stumble upon the unknown by mistake but most of the times you went snooping and found exactly what you were looking for. By all means SNOOP but snoop at your own risk. If you cannnot handle what you find, dont even play yourself bc it gets hot in the kitchen. Even if he's not your "man" i say you still have a right to invade his privacy, you just need to know what your getting yourself into. Its sort of like running a background check without his permission. Now i've rummaged through a few drawers and closets in my days and 9 times out of 10 i find exactly what im looking for. And what exactly is that? Evidence of another chick smh now dont get it twisted these guys were far from having that boyfriend title but still i felt like i was entitled to this information bc they were pursuing me. However, there is one thing i will not look in unless its a life or death situation and that is his phone. I dont want anybody searching through my phone so i'll give him the same respect, even though phones are where the most incriminating evidence is stored; i just refuse to cross that imaginary line of "trust".
I remember i was dating this guy back during my freshmen year in college. We were living in the dorms (*sigh* good ole dorm life) and he use to leave me in his room while he went to class sometimes. During one of those times i took it upon myself to do a room inspection, i swear i wud put the MTV show Room Raiders to shame. Anyway, i found odee shit: a bathing suit top under the bed, sum grandma draws in his top draw, sum letters from bitchez, and sum pictures of him and his ex. Hmmmmm. I was only talking to him for about a month now, we were far from serious, i didnt feel any type of way about these items but i still was skeptical. Was this boy a cross dresser? lol c'mon now what chick is gonna leave a bathing suit top under the bed and unless he was fucking Precious i dont understand the grandma drawer lol naw but seriously these discoveries tell u a lot about the person your dealing with. Chances are he's still hung up on his ex if he keeps her old letters and pictures in his top drawer. She could be a problem, & it wont come as a surprise now when she's calling ur phone blocked poppin shit about how they're still together or sending you facebook messages telling u to fallback smh this shit never gets old. NIGGAZ CONTROL UR BITCHEZ PLZ & THANX. Anyway, i never brought these discoveries to his attention, i didnt want him to think i was sum nosey, psycho, crazed stalker bitch. Needless to say, we ended up dating for about a year and his ex WAS a problem, i wish i wud have took heed then but shit happens and i charged it to the game.
But seriously what if you found another woman's underwear underneath ur man's bed? [insert episode of Snapped here] HELL MUTHAFUCKING NO! & when you ask him about it, his answer is always "those are yours." Yea right muthafucka, im a size 6 and clearly these are Monique's draws. Guys and their excuses kill me. Instead of manning up and owning up to their indiscretions they rather lie lie lie and then lie about a lie verses telling the truth smh. But im a firm believer that what is done in the dark surely comes to light eventually.
Dont get me wrong chicks are slick too and will plant something as small as a bobby pin at a guy's crib just so the main chick can find it. I definitely peeped game cuz i find myself leaving random shit around "his" crib all the time, im marking my territory and i wish another bitch wud. This can also be helpful in bringing a cheating man to his knees. One of my friends was dealing with this guy and she received facebook message one day from a chick who was also claiming to be his girlfriend. They ended up having a grown woman conversation about his cheating ways and came up with a solution, they was gonna set his ass up. They decided that the other chick was gonna leave sum black lace panties under his mattress during her next visit to his crib, this way he cud not deny anything. Anyway the chick did as was discussed and two days later my friend went over his crib and discovered the lace draws and confronted the guy about it. Of course he lied and said they were hers but my friend quickly busted his bubble and told her about her previous conversation with Melanie, he was caught. They both ended up fleeing him, supposedly.
At the end of the day if your constantly snooping through ur man's things there is a problem. You either dont trust him bc of ur insecurities or you dont trust him bc of his past indiscretions, either way is a recipe for disaster and you two probably should not be together. Trust is key in any relationship and lack of will be detrimental so before u take that step to invade your man's privacy ask yourself is it all worth it? if u decide to go through with it just know that there is no turning back and whatever u discover will effect your relationship.
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